No one is ready to become a dad. It doesn’t matter how many books you read beforehand. When you’re at the hospital and the nurse places the baby in your arms, one of your first thoughts is, “Oh crap! Now what?”
Fortunately, babies cry whenever they want something so you’ll never have to wonder if something is wrong. You’ll just lose your mind trying to figure out what exactly is wrong.
Fatherhood is the consummate trial and error experience. Despite the parenting books and blogs you (never) read, you’re still going to lose. Namely your sleep and sanity.
In this episode of Dad Life Rules, coffee snob and corduroy connoisseur, Chase Reeves and I talk about being ill-prepared for fatherhood, making it up as we go, and why “everybody loses” is a good thing.
Listen in as we discuss looking at the world from the perspective of a toddler and the life-saving power of routines.
“Something magic happens in that space where you allow stuff to take time rather than having a right answer or fixing it right away.” —Chase Reeves
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- Being thrust into fatherhood unprepared
- Defaulting to your wife when you don’t know what to do
- Writing as a mans of coping with dad challenges
- How fatherhood opens a whole new world to men
- The joy of coming home
- Experiencing shame when you fail big time
- Finding joy in the sounds and the act of creating
- Creating out of a solid sense of identity and self-worth
- The art of making up stuff
- Seeing the world from your kids perspective instead of forcing them to see the world from yours
Quotes & Takeaways
- “Everything is terrible and I cannot help but love this creature who is ruining my life.” —Chase Reeves
- The best thing about fatherhood is what you learn about yourself.
- “My son is the best movie I’ve ever seen. I’m just trying not to screw him up.” — Chase Reeves
- Accepting that everybody loses removes the pressure of having to find the “right” answers.
- “If you build your castle on the ideas that you’re certain about it will break down and fall apart.” —Chase Reeves
- Twitter: @chase_reeves
- Book: Whatever You Think, Think the Opposite by Paul Arden
- App: Day One
- Show Notes
“The practice matters more than the tool.” —Chase Reeves
What kind of adventure do you want to live? How do we do work we are proud of or feel good about?
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